When I was a communications significant in graduate school,.
active listening was a big piece of the curriculum. It seemed a lightweight.
subject at the time. Later on, when I taught listening skills to my own students,.
they too assumed it was a ho-hum no brainer largely because the literature on.
paying interest to others – actually hearing them – seemed to belabor the.
obvious: People needhave to be heard, validated and appreciated.
But the fact is that listening– providing our full attention.
to another – does not always come naturally. And the value of complete attention,.
which causes understanding and therefore proper response (which in some.
cases is no response, simply listening), is frequently neglected.
I was reminded of this on a number of events recently. The very first was when a young female I understand told.
me how much she valued the realitythat I always listen to her. It was a.
basic statement of thankfulness however one laden with meaning. What she was truly.
stating was that she valued the fact that I took her sensations seriously and.
offered authentic assistance, makinged her life easier and offered comfort in.
difficult scenarios. That was deeply important and handy to her, and it.
was vitalwas essential to me too. I felt the.
reward of understanding that by just listening I had actually made somebodies journey a.
little bit much easier.
sense of relieving someones journey through absolutely silent, unwavering listening.
belongs to an effort called The.
Invite Johnny and Jane Home Task launched by psychologist and writer.
Paula J. Caplan. As Caplan describes,.
Through totally free, voluntary, private, and considerate listening sessions, volunteer.
listeners assist to reduce the common gorges in between veterans and non-veterans.
through the basic act of a non-veteran paying attention to a veteran from any era.
This helps veterans through the power of human connection.
who volunteer to Listen to a Veteran are not therapists and they are not.
engaged in active listening that enables listeners to speak, Caplan describes.
Except for speaking 2 sentences, one at the start and one sometime throughout.
the session, they do absolutely nothingnot do anything but listen. However they do so with 100 % of their.
interest and their entire hearts. This design works.
perfectly, says Caplan. And according to research study conducted by Harvard University, veterans explain the.
listening sessions as valuable while listeners say it is incredibly.
transformative for them.
When I came back from Afghanistan,.
hearing the words Thank You from individuals who didnt know what I did or saw was.
an empty gesture, one Afghanistan.
army veteran reported. More than anything, I desired my neighborhood to listen to.
the stories of veterans like myself– to take parttake part in that moral struggle, and.
acquire a deeper awareness of the meaning of war. The Welcome.
Johnny and Jane Home Job understands the vital function that.
civilians can carry out simply by paying attention to veterans actively and without.
judgment, creating new chances for veterans to serve their communities.
by educating them about the nuanced truth of war. … Read the rest